Therapy
Healing from within, at your own pace
Therapy in my work is not about solving problems or “fixing” yourself.
It is about restoring a sense of safety, understanding what has shaped you, and learning to attune to yourself again. Pain is not avoided, but it is not forced either. We work carefully, with attention to what the body and nervous system can handle at this moment.
Trauma, loss, and prolonged stress leave traces in the way we think, feel, and respond physically. Often, people remain stuck in patterns that once were helpful, but no longer serve them. Therapy offers a place to recognize and understand these patterns, and to gently soften them step by step, creating space for healing, self-regulation, and new choices.
My approach as a therapist
My way of working is trauma-sensitive and embodied. This means we don’t only talk about what has happened, but also pay attention to what is unfolding in your body, emotions, and nervous system right now. Insight is important, but not sufficient. Change happens when experiences can also be felt and integrated.
I work from the Heart & Brain healing process, where psychology, neuroscientific insights, body awareness, and self-regulation come together. The sessions are attuned to what emerges in the moment. Sometimes this calls for slowing down and stabilizing, sometimes for gently approaching old wounds. Safety, attunement, and respect for your pace are always central.
My perspective as a therapist
With more than forty years of experience working with people as a psychologist and systemic therapist, I have built a broad professional foundation. This experience has taught me that real change rarely arises from a technique or protocol alone, but through relationship, presence, and a careful process.
My own life history has also allowed me to experience from the inside how disruptive trauma can be, and how profound healing can take place when it is not forced, but held. I share this not to place myself at the center, but because it can help when the person sitting opposite you understands what it means to survive, and what is needed to slowly move beyond that.
For me, therapy is not a path I map out for you, but a process we shape together, with attention to your history, your capacity, and your possibilities.
What we work on together
People come to me when they notice that talking and understanding alone are no longer enough. This may involve grief and loss, trauma and prolonged stress, anxiety or depressive symptoms, difficulties in relationships, or restoring self-respect and self-confidence. Destructive patterns from the family of origin, or feeling stuck after impactful life events, are also common themes.
I work with individuals, partners, and families, and tailor the guidance to what is needed and appropriate within their context.
When this therapy may be a good fit — and when it may not be
This form of therapy is suitable when you are willing to look at yourself with attention and honesty, and when you feel that healing is not found in quick solutions, but in carefully approaching what lives within you. It is a good fit if you have already tried many things, when symptoms keep returning, or when you notice they show up not only mentally, but also physically or in your relationships.
This therapy asks for a willingness to take responsibility for your own process, at a pace that matches your capacity. We do not work in a solution-focused way in the sense of “fixing,” but relationally and in an embodied way, with attention to the nervous system, emotions, and old survival patterns.
This therapy is less suitable if you are looking for a quick intervention, a strict protocol, or a direct solution to one clearly defined problem. It may also not be the right approach if you expect change to come mainly from outside, or when self-exploration does not feel possible.
The aim is not to become someone else, but to reconnect with who you are, beneath the layers of adaptation and survival.
Practical information
Therapy takes place in sessions of one hour (online) or in person at my practice in Nijmegen/Lent, with in-person sessions usually lasting ninety minutes. If you are coming from further away, we can coordinate together how best to schedule the sessions.
For current fees and any waiting times, you can get in touch via the contact form or by email. My rates are in line with specialized therapy that is not reimbursed by insurance.
If you would first like to explore whether my way of working suits you, you can book a 30-minute introductory conversation via the contact page. My availability is limited. During this conversation, we will look together at whether and how I can support you.